Children are gifts from Allah s.w.t. The Quran mentions this fact in the verse:
وَٱللَّهُ جَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَٰجًۭا وَجَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَزْوَٰجِكُم بَنِينَ وَحَفَدَةًۭ وَرَزَقَكُم مِّنَ ٱلطَّيِّبَـٰتِ ۚ أَفَبِٱلْبَـٰطِلِ يُؤْمِنُونَ وَبِنِعْمَتِ ٱللَّهِ هُمْ يَكْفُرُونَ
“And Allah has made for you spouses of your own kind and given you through your spouses, children and grandchildren. And He has granted you good, lawful provisions. Are they then faithful to falsehood and ungrateful for Allah’s favours?” (Surah An-Nahl, 16:72)
As Muslims, we are responsible for the well-being of our children physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It is their right to grow up in a healthy and secure environment. The Prophet s.a.w. mentioned in a hadith:
أَلَا كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْئُولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ
“Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
To save Prophet Musa (AS) from Firaon, his mother placed him in a basket and watched him float away. She was terrified, having just made a great sacrifice, but she placed her trust in Allah, believing that He would protect her son. It was because of this immense trust that Allah raised her ranks and the ranks of her son in this world and the hereafter, He returned Musa (AS) to her and she went on to become the mother of not one, but two Prophets.
When Prophet Yusuf (AS) was believed to be dead, his father, Prophet Yaqub (AS), grieved openly for him for a long time. He cried over his son so much that he became blind from the sorrow. He set the precedent for grief and beautiful patience for generations to come, and showed that your immense love for your children and the intensity of your grief for them is not a reflection of weak faith.
Likewise, when Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)’s son passed away in infancy, he called his tears of sorrow over him “a mercy”.
So below is a list of duaas that you can make for your children:
1. Dua for soften your children’s heart
اللَّهُ لَطِيفٌ بِعِبَادِهِ يَرْزُقُ مَن يَشَاء وَهُوَ الْقَوِيُّ العَزِيزُ
Allah is Gracious to His servants. He gives sustenance to whom He wills and He is the All-Strong, the All-Mighty (the All-Honorable). (Ash-Syura: 19)
2. Dua asking Allah to bless you with children
رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنْ لَدُنْكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً ۖ إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاءِ
Rabbi hab lii min ladunka zurriyyatan toyyibatan innaka samii’ud-du’aa. “My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication.” (Ali-Imran:38)
3. Dua For Children’s Exam
اللَّهُمَّ لَا سَهْلَ إلاَّ مَا جَعَلْتَهُ سَهْلاً، وأنْتَ تَجْعَلُ الحَزْنَ إذَا شِئْتَ سَهْلاً
“Oh Allah! Nothing is easy except what you have made easy. If you wish, you can make the difficult easy.” (Sahih Ibn Hibban)
4. Dua to Children Hear You
قُلْنَا يَا نَارُ كُونِي بَرْدًا وَسَلَامًا عَلَى إِبْرَاهِيمَ
We said: “O fire! Be cool and peaceful (safe) for Abraham”. (Surah Al-Anbiya: 69)
5. Dua for Children that True Believers Make
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ اَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيّٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ اَعْيُنٍ وَّاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِيْنَ اِمَامًا
“Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” (Surah Al-Furqan: 74)
Please keep reciting the above duas on a daily basis for your children. In addition, be kind to them, teach them good manners, show them the right and wrong path, and Insha-Allah, with the help of Allah, they will be on the straight path and meet Allah in a state that Allah is pleased with them.
Human testes rarely make sense so go with whatever works for your child and try not to judge. You might like to try an app for affirmations (short, positive, repetitive messages) or audiobooks if music isn’t quite right.
One of the most best audiobooks or interactive book to help parents who want to provide the best early childhood exposure to their kids who addicted to gadget is My First Book by MommyHana: https://www.mommyhana.com/index.php/product/my-first-book/
Help them compile a relaxition playlist to plug in to whenever they need break from their thoughts.